Everyone be like… be kind… be nice…
And I don’t know about you buut I am just a little bored of it tbf… i am sure i am not the only one – not because i don’t think it is a meaningful statement – it really is.
BUT…
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Surely to be kind is a given, on what planet would you choose not to be!!
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Most people are doing it simply to be on trend __ and their kindness is an empty one for likes, shares, follows, and comments – it is a superficial act to benefit their own purpose.
(The kindest people aren’t shouting about it on social media)
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To be truly kind requires candor… a willingness to be honest, and not just about someone’s strengths but often about their weaknesses, flaws, or failings so they can move forward. It is not kind to tell someone they are excelling when they are falling behind.
Being kind is not always popular, but i fear the context in which it is currently being used is to neglect the honesty sometimes people need to hear of they are to get the most out of life
>>> Wilful blindness never helped anyone
But in truth, none of these are the main reason i am a little bored of the whole #BeKind culture…
They’re just other items around the #BeKind narrative that sprung to my mind as I started writing this piece, the MAIN THING that actually gets to me is…
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>>> How can you be kind to others, if you cannot be kind to yourself?
I personally don’t believe it is possible – we are all encouraging kindness to other people but forgetting about ourselves.
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❌ We beat ourselves up for doing our best and falling short
❌ We beat ourselves up for our failures (despite failure being a pre-requisite of success)
❌ We fill our days with self deprivation and harsh words
❌ We allow our inner talk negatively impact our emotions and confidence
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I mean can you even look yourself in the eye, and tell yourself you love yourself?
Maybe it’s time you took a little of your own advice and started to be kind to yourself, helping yourself through a time where you can be excused for feeling a little down, it’s been a tough year (or two) – and you’re still here fighting.
So of course… be kind, but do it with meaning, do it with honesty (not brutally, but constructively) and start to rebuild yourself with kind words, and treat yourself the way you think others should
The kinder you are to yourself, the more you will notice the kindness everyday that surrounds you.